Monday, January 15, 2007

Thais love nicknames...



A : He's cute...What's his name?
Ake: Han-Ming.
A : It's Chinese. What's his Thai name?
Ake: Nope, just Han -Ming. And Andrei, the romanian name.
A: How about a nickname?
Ake: he he...sorry, no nick name. Just Andrei Han-Ming.
A: Ohhh...:(

On Postparthum Depression

I read loads of books on babies and pregnancy and one thing I couldn't understand was being depressed after delivery. Why would you? I was so ready to pop, so anxious to see the little guy..9 months was a long wait.
Doctors explain postparthum depression as a sudden hormone level drop. Anyhow, I never thought I'd even come close to feeling depressed...dog tired, YES...missing my care free life before baby, YES...but not depressed.

Here's how it hit me. First there's the awe of birth which lasts for few days. Then I ACTUALLY started missing having a tummy (weird, but I did) and feeling the kicks and the movements..that was on the outside, but really, my son and I were no longer ONE.
They say newborns do not realize they are a separate being from their mother, until the later months, and when they do, the letting go happens in tears...same thing goes for moms!!!...and most of them as we all know, NEVER LET GO. Three words: MOTHER IN LAW.

I know now how my dad felt when I got married.


6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear about the blues. Hopefully it won't be long before you are over them.

I hadn't heard about the baby realising it's not part of the mother though. Where did you get that information from?

I guess for me, it's been so long ago that I don't remember our kids behaviours when they were babies. There didn't seem to be any unexpected behaviour.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear about the blues. Hopefully it won't be long before you are over them.

I hadn't heard about the baby realising it's not part of the mother though. Where did you get that information from?

I guess for me, it's been so long ago that I don't remember our kids behaviours when they were babies. There didn't seem to be any unexpected behaviour.

Anonymous said...

The comment above was posted by me, Carmen and Ake,

love

Tina

Carmen said...

thanks Tina!

Funny enough, I'm over it now and in the full swing of things...
The info on babies - I picked that up in several baby books...They also said that some babies seem to let go easier some harder...I guess your guys were laid back and ready to take the world with open hands.

Carmen

Anonymous said...

Congratulations on the baby--he's absolutely gorgeous!

Anonymous said...

Glad you're back to normal. I remember when Diane was born, I couldn't stop crying at every little thing that didn't go right. I was not in charge of my emotions. However, that feeling went away very quickly, and the underlying one of utter joy remained.

love

Tina